5 Reasons Why You Should never Go Back to an Old Flame #walangbalikan #wagkangtanga (feat. Noel Yulo and Pal)

Eating. Sleeping. Social media. Training people. Never ending #miri. This were the things I used to do back then. Not until two of my good friends Noel Yulo (noelyuloblogs.blogspot.com) and Alvin "Pal" Domanais (palaplap.blogspot.com) introduced me to the world of blogging. Well, the truth is they're just tired of listening to all of my issues. So instead of whining they want me to type what I feel and what I think instead, making this their scapegoat(to get away from me and my craziness). So for our second collaboration blog we will give you good reasons of why you should never go back to an old flame. This is going to be my ultimate #hugot blog(damay-damay lang :) ). 

Once in your life, you will meet someone whom you will think is the right one for you. Someone who will bring you so much happiness and overwhelming joy. A person whom you will start to share your plans and your dreams with. Someone whom you will think is worth of your time and precious effort. Then after that you will wake up one day and realize everything has changed. The person whom you think is the right one for you turns out to be the wrong one. The person who brought you so much happiness and overwhelming joy is now the same person who has caused you overwhelming pain and overwhelming sadness. Sad to say that someone whom you have shared your dreams with is now sharing his own dreams with someone else. And you were left alone with the misery of thinking what have happened and what have you done wrong. You now undergo the most difficult stage of being in a broken relationship the MOVING ON stage. Struggling how to survive everyday,reminiscing the happy moments and wondering if they will ever happen again.After months of sulking. Getting drunk and pathetic self-blame, you finally decided to pick-up yourself and claim your place on this beautiful world.You're finally OK and happy. Just like the way you were before. Free as the wind, happy as a clown. Then you met again your old flame. The person who caused you misery is back, asking for another chance. Asking to rekindle what you have lost. What would you do now? Would you give that person another chance? Or would you go on and continue living your life without him.If I were you I would say continue with your life. After all you have survive months without him. But if you are still not satisfied with this reason and you really wanted to go back to that douche bag, let me give 5 reasons why you should not go back to your old flame:

1.THERE's A REASON WHY YOU BROKE-UP 

Alma says " You gave it a try, and it didn't work. Yes, you may still feel something towards your ex but it doesn't mean you have to rekindle what you have. Most relationship ends because some people aren't meant to be together. It might be because you are not compatible enough or you have lots of indifference. After all if the relationship was worth keeping, by now, you should still be together. If you let them go once, let them go forever."

Noel says "I believe in second chances (because I ask for it as well, hehe). But when it comes to a point where the chances are being asked repeatedly, then there is something wrong. I always believe in the word "worth". If you value your partner, chances are you would do everything to make him/her better and makes things work. Do something that ruins that foundation, and pretty much that becomes a reason why you shouldn't be together. If you find yourself in that situation, value your WORTH. Move on (or swim on, you know, a lot of fish in the sea)."

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Pal says "- 'Langya, kung kailan ako nagka-jowa saka niyo ko pinag-sulat ng mga ganito. Wala akong masyadong karanasan sa pakikipag-hiwalay - at lalo na sa pakikipag-balikan. Bukod sa Long Mejia lang ang karakas ng alindog ko, bihira na ang mga babaeng malabo ang mata sa panahon ngayon. Wala na ding babaeng tumitingin sa busilak na puso, malapad na noo at malinis na kuko. Wala na. Kapanahunan kasi ng mga Boyband at Kepapers ngayon, kung di ka mukhang chumu-chupa o kung di ka mukhang One Direction, di ka pogi.

Kung tatanungin niyo ko, madaming rason sa pakikipag-hiwalay. Kaya wag niyo na lang ako tanungin.

Una, nag-jowa ka. Wala ka namang hihiwalayan kung di ka lumandi. So kung lalandi ka, siguraduhin mo munang handa na ang Alaxan, nang hindi ka masaktan. Kung di ka pa ready, manood na muna ng mga tele-seryeng Tagalog na pare-pareho ang ending. Aral muna bago landi. Kung lalandi, mag-tiis sa hapdi. Tumulong muna sa pamilya. Kung walang trabaho, matutong maghugas ng plato.

Wala nang pangalawa. Kasi najijinggel ako.

2.YOU NO LONGER HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOUR EX, YOU JUST MISS THE MEMORIES 

Alma says " Years and months of being together is not a joke. You have enjoyed each other's company and have developed that certain emotional bond. You have literally shared a lot of memories together, both good and sad. That's why the moment you decided to end up what you have, going on through the day was never easy. Passing-by certain places where you used to hang-out, remembering that person while you're eating pizza and those sudden flashbacks even if you are not doing anything are common scenarios post break-up. That's why the moment the moment your old flame asks for another chance you start to get confuse whether you will give him a chance or not. You start to recall those happy moments that you've shared and wonder if the same thing will happen again. Then you start to get confuse and will think that you still have feelings for him. The truth is, YOU'RE JUST IN LOVE WITH THE MEMORIES not with the person anymore. Feelings lost are feelings lost. It can be replaced but it can't be revived."

Noel says " El Rio. AdDU. Obrero. Maligaya Avenue. Abreeza. Those are places that reminded me of the first five girls I fell in love with, respectively. Those places used to put weight on me every time I pass by (and I don't mean fat!). But as time goes by, they all become just places that I happen to go to or drive by. Other than that, whatever weight I used to get, are nothing but mere memories of the past. Time heals all wounds, and if you focus on other important things (like I don't know, yourself), all emotional baggage will just disappear (and let's hope your fats as well)."

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Pal says 

"Takte, kapag nabasa ng jowa ko to, baka bukas single nanaman ako. O kaya naman ay may pilay at naka-semento ang braso. Ayokong mag 50/50 ngayong summer.

Walang gamot sa tanga. Wala na akong maalala sa ex ko. It's either kinalimutan ko na, o tinatamad lang ako mag-type. Ang naaalala ko lang, masarap yung litson kawali na kinain ko kanina sa palengke ng Bangkerohan. Mamantika at maalat, pero masarap.

Wala itong kinalaman sa ex ko. Pero gaya niya, masama ito sa puso.

Gaya ng lagi kong payo sa lahat ng uri ng problema: Focus on things you can control.

Di ko talaga alam kung applicable yan para sa blog ni Alma, pero English yan kaya maganda pakinggan. Kung naka-ahon ka na sa ex mo, wag mo nang piliing malunod muli. Alam mo na ang pakiramdam. Mag-focus sa mga may kabuluhang bagay gaya nina Mang Kanor, Ozawa, Performance ni Maricar Reyes at marami pang iba. Muli, walang gamot sa tanga.

 3. TRUST WILL BE FOREVER MISSING 

Alma says " If your ex cheated on you what guarantee can you get that he is now a changed person?He did it once he can always do it again. Trust is given voluntarily but the moment its destroyed it would be difficult to give it again. Given that you still have feelings for that person, the next question you need to ask yourself is are you ready to give the same amount of trust you have given before? Remember giving that person another chance is same as giving him another chance to break you. Security and assurance is always important."

Noel says " Life is a gamble. And one of those is giving a chance to that a-hole that hurt your heart!!! (Relax Noel, no need to show your bitter side here, we have moved on remember?) Look, if people get away with something, it usually leads to two things, they won't do it again because they are already afraid OR they will do it again because you are stupid. And with how people are nowadays,. trust me, you're better of investing on a tracking device, like, right now. You CAN still trust a person that broke your trust, but it is a gamble. My advice, value your worth. Unless you are a gambler, hey, the money you lose, is every bit of respect you have for yourself."

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Pal says "Sa Convenience Store, napaka-daming Trust. Trenta-y-otso pesos. Mas makakamura kung bibilhin yung plain - yung dilaw, flavorless. Mas masaya bumili ng Trust kung bibili ka din ng Lucky Me Pancit Canton tsaka softdrinks. Napansin ko lang, di kagandahan ang mga tindera sa convenience store. Kaya sa susunod, kung may babae man akong mamahalin, gusto ko unique - yung nagbebenta ng sabong nakaka-itim.

On a serious note, there is no way to know if you can trust someone. The best way to know if you can still trust somebody is to trust them. Naks, English nanaman yan tol. But do not 'serious me ha, sige ka, I might serious you.' Hahaha.

4. YOU ARE TOTALLY OK, LIVING A NEW LIFE 

Alma says "The moment you ended things with your ex you decided to head on a newer life. Go back to the first reason on this blog. You are now perfectly fine without him, why go back being miserable? Focus on the things that you have. You have learned from your previous mistakes, so better make it as a lesson. Your ex is a simple example of a person that you should never choose for your future."

Noel says "Do you chew again the shit you just pooped? Not to sound disgusting, but that's the best and straight forward way I can put it (but seriously Noel?). After being constipated, isn't it the best feeling when you let it go away? If you want to go back in the past, hey, it is up to you. But if there is one thing I learned in life, every misstep that we take in life will lead us to a better future because we become wiser than who we are yesterday. Hey, someone is always better than the last one. Give yourself an opportunity to chase something much better (unless you become desperate, still, don't)."

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Pal says "YOU ARE TOTALLY OK, LIVING A NEW LIFE." Di ko alam kung pang Love Life pa ba o pang preso na 'tong number 4 ni Alma. Buhay mo yan tol. Kung sawa ka na sa buhay mo, i-try mo sa kabilang buhay. 

5. BEING STUPID IS NOT A CAREER SO DON'T EXERT EFFORT (hindi career ang pagiging tanga wag mo galingan) 

Alma says "This says it all. Efforts are given to people who knows how to value it. You've given too much effort before and t'was wasted, there is a great chance that the same shit will happen again. If you've been dumb before by following your heart,try to use your brain right now. Don't be heartless but learn to use your heart less. The key to happiness is by removing the people who are causing you the sadness. Rekindling your relationship with an old flame is like scratching an old scar. Try to scratch an old scar and see for yourself what will happen."

Noel says "It's not your fault if you make a mistake. But you're stupid if you make the same one. We all take chances with all the relationships that we try to forge, but whenever something happens to you, make sure you learn from it. I consider myself a student of life (I am deep like that) and as much as possible I try to learn on every other person's mistakes and mine. REMEMBER: Learn, not collect. Everyone you meet can be a blessing for you, but don't make it to a point where you will be a blessing as well to someone. Don't let yourself be a reason on why people learn, learn from yourself with your own mistakes. Again, if he/she hurts you, learn from that experience. Up to you if you want a re-take, but then again, most people study well what happened on their previous test not to commit the same mistakes again - on a NEW test paper.

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Pal says "Karir yan tol. Minsang kinarir yan ng mga taong sumusulat ng napaka-random na blog gaya nito. Kung magiging tanga, maging tanga responsibly. Wag karirin ang pagiging tanga. Tangama, basta mag-sipilyo 3x a day at mag-hilod ng balat kung gusto makahanap ng rebound sa lalong madaling panahon. Iiklian ko nalang, ang haba na masyado ng blog na 'to.

If all the signs are leading you to the opposite direction, learn to stop.

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I dedicate this blog to myself, to Cyrinne, to Ersheid, to Katrina and to everyone. May this serve as an inspiration and a reminder for us not to do the same shit over and over again. Para rin ito sa mga taong nakapag move-on na at nagmomove-on pa kahit hindi naman naging sila.